Aug. 11, 2025

Why Midlife Might Be the Best Time to Stop Overthinking - Patreon Is Here (Ep. 42)

If you’re in your 40s, 50s, or 60s, you’ve probably had this moment: You should feel confident by now… but you find yourself staring at a decision, second-guessing every move, and wondering why it feels so hard to just choose.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

Why so many midlife women struggle to make decisions (it’s not just you!)
The surprising ways overthinking keeps us stuck
A personal turning point that taught me the value of support
How to stop waiting for “perfect clarity” before you act
Why I created the Midlife Pivot Patreon—a space designed for steady encouragement, practical tools, and community

Whether you’re making a big life change or just want to stop second-guessing your daily choices, this conversation will help you take the next step—without having it all figured out first.

Links & Resources:

Join the Midlife Momentum Collective ($9/month) or the Midlife Breakthrough Experience ($99/month) → patreon.com/mindyourmidlife
Follow me on Instagram for midlife mindset boosts → @cherylpfischer

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00:00 - Midlife Confidence Paradox

02:32 - Second-Guessing Our Decisions

04:31 - Finding Clarity Through Coaching

07:49 - Introducing Midlife Pivot Patreon

09:25 - Tier Options and Community Benefits

11:26 - Invitation and Call to Action

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Well, here we are, midlife you're 40 something, you're 50 something, maybe you're 60 something.

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I feel like we're all probably about 35, 38 in our head speaking for myself, anyway and we often find ourselves sitting and staring at a big decision in this time of life, and yet knowing we should be confident by now.

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So what keeps us stuck?

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And has that happened to you?

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Let's talk about it.

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Welcome to Mind your Midlife, your go-to resource for confidence and success.

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One thought at a time.

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Unlike most advice out there, we believe that simply telling you to believe in yourself or change your habits isn't enough to wake up excited about life or feel truly confident in your body.

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Each week, you'll gain actionable strategies and, oh my goodness, powerful insights to stop feeling stuck and start loving your midlife.

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This is the Mind your Midlife podcast.

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I put a post on my Instagram the other day about the things that I've just realized at this point are not going to change about me, and as I'm sitting here recording this, I'm looking at the nail polish on my hands that is kind of growing out and I should have taken it off a while ago and that was one of the things.

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Yeah, maybe I should have.

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I'm not going to do it in a timely manner.

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Never have and you know, at this point it's just me we do not care right and at the same time, even though we have confidence in some of those things that we might have worried about when we were younger, we get stuck or we second guess.

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It's so common that when I talk to coaching clients, they say I can't stop overthinking and I never make a decision or I never take action.

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I feel all by myself when I'm trying to figure this out.

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Isn't there anybody else who's ever dealt with this?

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Well, yeah, of course there is, but we don't see it right.

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Or they question what's next?

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What's my purpose?

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Now I want to do something that really matters to me.

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How do I figure that out?

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These are such common struggles and we have a hard time with them.

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I guess that's the definition of struggle.

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In fact, the other day I was sitting down with some very good friends of mine and one of them was let's call her Mary, was telling us how she had recently bought a car and she had done all this research about the car and she wanted a certain size.

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She wanted, you know, was it going to be electric, or was it going to be hybrid or not or all of these different things.

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She had done so much research.

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She was really, really happy with her decision and she loved the car.

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And at the same time, when she went to work at her business, she was parking it way in the back of the parking lot Because she thought I don't know if I want the people I work with to see my car, because maybe they think I spent too much money on the car and I don't want people to think something about me.

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And so then should I have gotten this car?

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And let me just tell you, it's not as if she bought the highest top of the line you know, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on it.

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It was just all this second guessing and questioning.

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And I was kind of helping her through that, saying you made your best decision about a car that is really good for you.

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Don't put on yourself thoughts that were in other people's minds or that, quite frankly, what we think other people think we don't even know.

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We're just guessing.

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We're making it up In this period of life when we feel so confident about some things, we get so overwhelmed about other things.

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We're carrying a lot and I think our clarity, our ability to just kind of move through all the mess, gets a little.

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It gets a little murky or we feel like we're alone and that's why you hear me and others talking about companionship and maintaining friendships and all of that.

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So my turning point was back when I was in my 40s and I had an online business that I was doing alongside the full time work that I was doing.

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I think part of the time I was teaching, part of the time I was working for a small business and I was doing this online thing and I had really no idea what I was doing about making goals and going bigger.

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And looking five years out, I had no idea what I was doing and I realized that I needed someone to help me.

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I needed a coach and over that few year period, I tried a business coach for a while and I learned a lot from her.

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And then I tried a mindset coach and, good heavens, she changed my life.

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She knows who she is.

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And then, since then, I've had other types of coaches as well.

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And here's the gap I see, because I am a life and mindset coach and I do work with clients.

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Interestingly, I end up working a lot with women entrepreneurs or women who are starting businesses, alongside something else.

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I think that's it's a skill, this thinking bigger skill, that we're not often taught anywhere else.

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And as I work with those women, I'm also going to, you know, get togethers with my friends and I'm going to networking events and I'm talking to so many other women who I see could benefit from coaching.

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But they don't see and maybe this is true for you they don't see what they would go to coaching for.

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They see that this is kind of how life is at this point.

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It's hard to manage these aging parents and kids getting older and other work challenges and body changes.

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It's hard to manage all of this.

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But why would I go to a coach?

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What would I talk about?

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It's kind of like when you're thinking of maybe going to a therapist Do I really need that?

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Not obviously exactly the same thing.

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A therapist and a coach, those are two very different things.

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But sometimes we think, well, we don't really have anything that would be so important that we would need to hire a coach to help us.

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I mean, we don't really have anything that would be so important that we would need to hire a coach to help us.

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I mean, we just it's normal, this normal stuff.

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I think there's a gap there.

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Women like you and like me are craving tools to handle our stress better, to be able to make a flipping decision without second guessing and overthinking, to have a community there to encourage us.

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But where is that?

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I mean you have to kind of make your own, and so that's what I want to create.

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I don't want it to be complicated.

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I don't want you to have to make a big decision about whether you need to go out and find a coach.

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I just want you to come hang with us.

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You know, the more I've worked with midlife women, the more I've realized we don't just need more information.

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We can get information everywhere.

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You can get information from me and the podcast all the time.

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We need spaces that help us feel supported, clear, secure, confident and making decisions.

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That's why I created the Midlife Pivot Patreon.

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It's a space where you can come for encouragement, practical tools to help you move forward and, probably most importantly, connection with women who get it.

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We have two different levels, so you get to choose.

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Tier one is the Midlife Momentum Collective.

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So you get to choose.

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Tier one is the Midlife Momentum Collective.

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This is your space to get regular encouragement and tools to keep your mindset moving forward.

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Now everybody connected to the Patreon at all first of all gets a Wednesday Wisdom Mindset message every week powerful boost to keep you on track.

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And the collective gets access to all my bonus podcast interviews and content that I don't share anywhere else.

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Once a month, we'll meet on zoom for a live workshop on a midlife mindset topic, something that's going to help you feel more clear, more confident, more in control of your next steps, and the recording will be available too.

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You'll also get regular tapping practices that you can do on your own.

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Right now already I have tapping for stress, tapping for making decisions, and you'll get little behind the scenes, peeks at what's happening in my life and with the podcast, so that you get to feel part of the journey.

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If you want steady encouragement, momentum community, that's the perfect place to start Now.

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The second tier, which includes everything I just said plus one private coaching session with me every month, is the midlife breakthrough experience, and for this coaching session we'll meet on Zoom just the two of us to talk about where you're feeling stuck, what decisions are weighing on you and maybe how to break through the blocks that are holding you back.

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These sessions are completely tailored to you, your goals, your challenges, your life right now, and you'll leave each call with a little bit more clarity, a plan of what to do next and, hopefully, more confidence to take those next steps.

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If you want personal support and guidance alongside the community, this is where breakthroughs happen, and that's really the vision for this Patreon space.

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It's not just a membership.

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It's a place where you can be yourself, be supported and start moving toward the life you want, one confident decision at a time.

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So here's your invitation Come join us.

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The Midlife Pivot Patreon is open right now.

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Our August live Zoom workshop is coming up soon.

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I'd love for you to be a part of it.

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If you've been feeling stuck, if you've been overthinking your next steps, if you've been craving a space where you can grow, feel supported and finally trust yourself again, this is that space.

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Tier one, the Midlife Momentum Collective, is just $9 a month.

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It is perfect if you want steady encouragement, new tools and a community that understands what you're going through.

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Isn't that the key?

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Tier two, the Midlife Breakthrough Experience, is $99 a month and it's for you if you're ready for personal, one-on-one coaching alongside that community.

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You can find all the details and join today at patreoncom slash mindyourmidlife or just scroll down to the show notes and click easy peasy.

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I'm so excited to see you inside the community and to walk alongside you as you create the life you want in midlife, one confident decision at a time.

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So thanks for listening and remember you don't have to have it all figured out to take your next step, you just have to start.

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I'll see you again soon.