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The me that existed 10 years ago, woke up in the morning, dreading getting up and going about my day.
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And it wasn't depression or anxiety per se.
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It was just simple.
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Here's all the things I'm worried about.
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I don't want to get out of bed every day, maybe a little less on the weekend, but every day.
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And I would lie there in bed as I was trying to get myself to get up.
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And I would mentally run through the things that were making me not want to get my day started.
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OMG, hello, my friends.
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If you saw the title of this episode before it started playing on your podcast app, wherever it is you're listening right now, you saw that we're going to talk about how to wake up happy.
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And that did one of maybe a couple of things for your brain.
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Your brain either immediately started arguing, saying, I can't wake up happy.
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That's ridiculous.
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Never have been able to.
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I'm bad.
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I mean, I'm bad in the morning.
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I'm not a morning person.
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Or your brain said, oh, yeah, easy.
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Love getting up in the morning.
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All good.
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And of course, there's other possibilities.
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But I think one of those two things probably happened.
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So let me tell you that I used to be that first person saying that's never going to work.
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I don't like mornings.
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I can't get up.
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You can ask my college roommate.
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I...
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really, I'm still not a morning person.
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And I when I was in my professional life, in most of the jobs I've had, I would just wake up like with dread.
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And I don't do that anymore.
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On most days, there's always going to be some that sneak in.
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So I want to talk to you about how we can start to change that pattern if this is the trap you're falling into.
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And I'm going to give you a couple of very specific pieces of advice.
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So if that sounds good, hang in there with me.
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Let's do it.
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Let's talk about it.
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Okay, what does it even mean to wake up happy?
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Well, yeah, let's be a little more specific because I don't mean that your goal necessarily has to be to wake up almost laughing.
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You're so excited for your day to start and you are just jumping out of bed.
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I recognize that sometimes that's your personality.
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You're a morning person.
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You love to greet the day, but sometimes it's really just not.
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And we joke in my family that everybody's a night person.
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And if other parts of the extended family or friends are visiting, like My little family group is not the ones getting up early.
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So it doesn't have to be about early or late.
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What it's about is when you wake up in the morning, what is the immediate mood that hits you?
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What are the immediate thoughts that hit you?
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Are they looking forward to something?
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Are they, you know, satisfied, ready to go?
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Or is it just dread or some cousin of dread like angst or worry it just your eyes open and it smacks you in the head and your brain I always imagine like a little hamster on a wheel in our brains your brain hamster starts running oh no oh no oh no oh no worry worry worry worry dread dread dread that's what we want to see if we can change and we can change because I've done it I don't know if we can all become the type of person that jumps out of bed and doesn't need a snooze and ready to go and this is an amazing day.
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And that's okay.
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That's your personality.
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You get to enjoy evening instead of morning or whatever it might be.
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What I want for all of us is to be able to wake up in the morning and not be just smacked in the head by a two by four of dread.
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And that rhymed.
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So there you go.
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So how do we do that?
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This is really kind of the steps you go through with any transformative process in your self image and your self belief in your lifestyle.
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Number one, decide.
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So to a certain extent, it's easy and comfortable to wake up dreading the day and worrying about the day.
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Whether you are home with kids, whether you're going to work, whether you hate your job or your job is just fine, or whether you're going through a challenge right now, it doesn't matter.
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You can get into the habit of just waking up and dreading the day.
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And the problem with that is our brains have a reticular activating system.
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You may have heard me talk about this before.
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that looks for evidence out in the world to match whatever we believe to be true.
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So if we get into a habit of waking up and dreading the day, guess what the first thing is that our brains are going to do as soon as they're switched on into consciousness, they're going to look for evidence of why we should dread the day.
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So immediately you call up your boss or your coworker that you're worried about dealing with or some challenge that you or your kids are going through or something you have to do that day that you really don't want to do.
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Your brain pulls it immediately, puts it on the front screen of what you're looking at.
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because you are in the habit of believing that that's how your day starts.
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And this is probably not a conscious habit that you chose to create, right?
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We fall into these things sometimes.
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That's the habit I had fallen into.
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10 years ago, the me that existed 10 years ago, woke up in the morning, dreading getting up and going about my day.
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And it wasn't depression or anxiety per se.
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It was just simple, here's all the things I'm worried about.
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I don't want to get out of bed every day, maybe a little less on the weekend, but every day.
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And I would lie there in bed as I was trying to get myself to get up and I would mentally run through the things that were making me not want to get my day started.
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Now, typically once I got started, I was okay.
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That's why I say for me anyway, it wasn't related to depression or anxiety.
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It was something that It was a habit in the morning.
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Really, it was a thinking habit.
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So if that is what you're dealing with, you can change it.
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And it will matter.
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And at the same time, just, you know, we got to go through some steps.
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We got to do a little bit of work to change these habits.
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So as I said, step one is making the decision.
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I want to wake up differently.
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We have to make the decision now.
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I want to wake up.
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How?
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How do you want to wake up?
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Do you want to look forward to the day?
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Do you want to have an easier time getting out of bed?
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Do you want to immediately think about gratitude or things you're happy about?
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decide how you want to start the day.
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And this is really how you want to start the day mentally, but it will, of course, affect how you physically start the day.
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How are you getting up?
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What are you doing?
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And if you've never, by the way, read the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, I'll put it on omgteachme.com slash read.
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Really great tips in that book as far as habits you can start.
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We're going to keep it even a little simpler than that today.
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So number one, we've decided I want to start my day, let's say, looking forward to the day.
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I want to be able to wake up and I want to be able to look forward to the day.
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Okay, second step.
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I want you to recognize what is it that's going on now.
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because I'm giving you some general descriptions of how your morning might feel when you're that immediately something comes into your head that you're worried about or not looking forward to?
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You know, an interaction with someone, a project you have to do, a challenge you're facing, or is it more general, just, ugh, don't want to get up?
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You want to recognize what's going on in your head because you might be switching a little bit what we're going to do depending on what it is that you're thinking habit.
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So number one, decision.
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Number two, let's recognize what's going on now.
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When you first wake up, Number three, let's try creating some new habits.
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Actually, I'm not even going to say try.
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Let's start creating some new habits.
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So what I mean by that is when you open your eyes in the morning, I want you to work on being so grateful to have even opened your eyes that morning.
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And some days this is going to be easy and some days it's not.
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The power of practicing this over and over and over is that that consistency is how our brains learn.
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And even if it doesn't seem like it at first, even if this is really hard at first to change, you're going to look back in a month, six months, a year and And you're not gonna believe how far you've come.
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The self-image we have in our minds, the way we think of ourselves is such a powerful thing and really directs everything that we do.
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And one piece of that is feeling good about how we look.
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So if you want to feel good in your skin, wash your face every night, make sure to moisturize and check out my favorite skincare, which is Derm Results Advanced.
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You can find it at omgteachme.com So when you wake up, I want you to practice saying, today is a good day.
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Not is going to be a good day, not anything more specific.
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Today is a good day.
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Because quite frankly, if we take it down to the most basic level, and I think you would all agree with me, if you woke up today, that's a good thing.
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Because the alternative is not.
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So today is a good day.
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Now, how are you going to get yourself to do this when you first open your eyes?
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You are going to place reminders everywhere.
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So if you have a spouse, partner, whatever, tell them what you're doing.
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I want you to put a note of some sort on the nightstand right next to your bed.
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I don't really want you to have your phone right next to your bed, but if you do and you need to do that for some reason, maybe it becomes the home screen of your phone.
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Or I read on my iPad at night, so it could be the home screen of your iPad that you're reading on, something like that.
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A sticky note on your alarm clock.
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And by the way, here's a two for one.
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If you put a sticky note over the numbers of your alarm clock, maybe it'll dim that light a little bit.
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We really want to sleep with as dark a room as possible.
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I also want a sticky note on your bathroom mirror.
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Or the door to your bathroom.
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What are you going to do immediately when you get up?
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Sticky note there.
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Today is a good day.
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Literally that simple.
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And that's where I want you to start.
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So we've decided we're going to change this.
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We've recognized what we're doing.
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That was one and two.
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Now we are starting a new habit and we're keeping it very simple.
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So this is number three.
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I want this very simplest habit to be the next thing that you try.
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Today is a good day.
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Today is a good day.
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Now, how do we make this even more powerful?
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You've got the visual reminders, and those are really important because sometimes we wake up really weird, right?
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And tomorrow morning when you wake up, you are not necessarily going to be thinking of me saying, today is a good day.
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You're going to be thinking of a lot of other things because there's that thought habit going on.
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So it's really important to have this physical, visual reminder and have more than one of them.
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really, really, really important.
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And maybe get your partner to do this along with you if they're game for that.
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Today is a good day.
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Now, when we have an affirmation like this, sometimes our brains don't believe that affirmation.
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And that takes away a little bit the power of it.
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Because if you can say in your mind or out loud, out loud, even more powerful, but either way, Today is a good day.
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You might not believe it, right?
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Maybe today is the day you have to go have a really tough discussion with your boss.
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Or maybe today is the day you have to go to your kid's school to talk about something that is not going well, whatever it is.
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It's going to be sometimes challenging to wake up and say, today is a good day.
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And that's okay.
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So I want you to create for yourself a picture in your mind.
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And again, keep it simple because we're just waking up.
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We can't be overcomplicating.
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Where is it?
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that you feel just so calm, peaceful, and happy?
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Is there a scene you can imagine?
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For me, it's sitting by a mountain lake, maybe on a deck overlooking the water and just being there.
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Maybe for you, it's the beach.
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Maybe for someone else, it's your garden, your yard.
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Maybe for someone else, it's spending time at dinner with your family, whatever.
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See if you can add a picture.
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that you can think of first thing in the morning when you are saying and thinking today is a good day.
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Because even a little hint of that calm and peace and joy, happiness, glimmer, that that picture, that scene gives you is going to help.
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Now, I also read, and I'm pretty sure this came from Bob Proctor at some point.
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If not, it was Jim Rohn.
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I wasn't able to find it today.
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But I have read that another thing to do to help this sink in more, and I did do this for a while when I was really trying to turn things around with my morning attitude, is when I get out of bed, I would hold my arms up in the air like a V or like a Y in YMCA.
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And I would say, today is a good day.
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And I would do this quietly if my husband was still sleeping or maybe out loud if he had already gotten up, whatever.
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And yes, you might feel silly.
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And yes, that's okay.
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Because nobody else is there seeing you do this.
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And the cool thing about holding your arms up in the air is that it's actually much harder to feel bad when your arms are up in the air.
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Try it.
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Put your arms up in the air unless you're driving right now or unless you're, you know, in some other situation where you can't It's harder to feel bad when your arms are up in the air.
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So put them up.
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Make it your morning stretch.
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Stretch.
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Today is a good day.
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I'm stretching now as I'm saying this because it feels good.
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And I want you to just start with that thing for three weeks.
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Wake up.
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You've made the decision.
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You've recognized how your morning typically goes.
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Wake up.
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You're saying today is a good day because you've got reminders reminding you to do that.
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And even better, you're standing up, you're stretching, you're saying it again.
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Maybe when you get into the bathroom, you look in the mirror and say it to yourself again.
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That one sentence, keep it simple.
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Picture this scene that makes you happy and calm because adding that emotion helps our brain to sink this sentence into our subconscious, into our image of ourselves.
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Now, step four is to add some more pieces to this.
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And I say step four because I don't want you to try all this at once.
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It's going to be too much.
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Potentially, you're going to say, she told me too many things to do.
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I can't remember.
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It's too hard.
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If you are starting to feel that way, save this episode, pause, come back to it after you've tried a few mornings of today is a good day.
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And even if you're feeling, by the way, I want you to say today is a good day.
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And maybe that's even more important to say it out loud at that point.
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Even if you're not feeling it, do it every day.
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If you're feeling it, you're getting a little better at it, then I want you to add in gratitude.
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And I want you to do this kind of with your own personal style spin on it.
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Are you a journaler?
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Then you want to have a journal or the notes app on your phone.
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Again, I don't really want your phone right by your bed, but whatever.
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And you want to get up and you want to write down three things you're grateful for and do it first thing.
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Maybe just have a little notepad and a pencil, pen, whatever, sitting by your bed.
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You wake up and you write down three things you're grateful for.
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And some days it is not easy to think of three things that I am grateful for, let me tell you.
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And I've reached the point with this where it's become such a habit that I don't honestly write mine down anymore.
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This is why I say you can put your own personal spin on it.
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I just think of them.
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And I let that thought lift my emotions a little bit more.
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And it can be so simple.
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It can be I can see the sun coming in around the shades on the windows, and I know it's going to be a beautiful day.
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That could be one thing.
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I know that something great is going to be happening today.